Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Update on my newest great-nephew

Heard from my sister that my great-nephew (the one who was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis) is in foster care.

Not sure when he was placed into care and I am not sure if my niece voluntarily made the decision or if it was made for her (she has some serious mental health issues).

I think that this might be the best decision for the lil guy.  I can say that when I was a baby, my birth Mom did the right thing for me by giving me up.

As much as it affected my self-esteem growing up -- in hindsight it was the best thing for me.

I might not have even survived if I had not been placed in foster care and then been adopted because of all the stressors and challenges that both my birth parents had in their own lives, as well as the drama that surrounded them from their extended families.

I do hope that my niece at least gave a lot of information so that when C. grows up, he can have information on why his Mom made the decision that she did (or why the decision was made for her - if that's the case).

I'm still sad though.

Am debating what to say to my niece... since she hasn't said anything about it to me.


  1. Wow.

    I don't really know what I would say if I were in the position you are in. I hope that everything you hoped for happened or happens.

    But advice as to what to say.... I am at a loss. I am so sorry this happened right before Christmas. :(

  2. I'd say just wait and see what she says to you about it. It's a hard place to be in with family especially when it's family and you think it was the right decision. One of my stepsisters has had 5 kids and is preg again. My dad & stepmom have raised the oldest and the next 3 live with their Dad at her grandparents house. As for the youngest two... Her family has told her that she's not allowed to bring any more kids home... NONE. It's a really tough situation with stuff like that.

  3. What a tough situation. Your grand-nephew will likely need some specialized care, due to the CF, and perhaps your niece didn't feel she could handle it right now. It's always hard--you niece may not want to talk about it right now. Sometimes keeping quiet is the best thing you could do for someone in such a situation, as they adjust to what has just happened. Take care...and my best to your family.

  4. I'm so sorry. *HUGS* I have to agree with you though. It sounds like it was the best decision, and I'm sure some family will come along soon and fill his life with a tremendous amount of love. Just follow your heart and do what you feel is best when it comes to speaking or not speaking to your niece about it. Let us know what you decide to do.

  5. What a tough situation... I would wait until your niece says something first. I hope she does talk to you, because I'm sure you would be able to really reassure her, but I would still wait until she's ready.


  6. So sorry to hear about this difficult situation in your family. Sending best wishes to all